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A life-long mystery

Thursday, December 24, 2009

 

A life-long mystery

The group photo, left, shows back, from left, auntie Connie, uncle Bert and my nan. Front, auntie Ruth, John (I think) and my grandad.

ISLANDERS REUNITEDFrom Mr G. Willett-Irvine, 34 Marshland Terrace, Offerton, Stockport, SK1 4PZ, 01614 803239:

WHEN I was 15 my mother took me to join the navy but I insisted I wanted to join the RAF and I did. My mother did the paperwork, therefore I never saw my birth certificate.

When I was 20 I wanted to marry a local girl, my mother objected and, during an altercation with her, she said I could not marry her because I had the wrong name.

She said I had to choose between my girlfriend or her and she would cross me off if I went ahead and got married.

I obtained my birth certificate, which stated my name was Harding, my mother’s maiden name. Not knowing what to do, I contacted my CO, who asked me which name I wanted to be known by. I chose Willett, which was the name I’d grown up with. A declaration was made up and I had to carry it with me. I got married and my two attempts at reconciliation with my mother failed. I managed to trace her many years later, when I was nearly 60, we spoke on the phone and I visited her. On one occasion I asked her who my father was (somehow from the past I remembered the name Irvine), I asked her if his surname was Irvine and she said it was but wouldn’t disclose anything further. Soon after this she passed away.

A few years later I decided to find out who my father was. I discovered he had married my mother two years after I was born. He was a regular in the RAF and could have been at the same camps at the same time I was there. Sadly, he had died in his 60s, so I never got to meet him.

John when he was 15, taken at Dover Street.
John when he was 15, taken at Dover Street.
John is another mystery waiting to be solved. I have not ruled out the possibility of him being my half brother, although my mother would only have been 13 at the time of his birth. I was told he was fostered by my grandparents but, from his appearance, he looks like the Hardings. I spent all my childhood on the Island living firstly in Dover Street, Ryde, with my grandfather, Albert Harding, my mother, Maisie, and my step-father, Joe Willett.

My grandfather was the caretaker of Caversham House School and our house was in the grounds. I remember an older child living with us, called John. I can recall my grandfather’s death around 1952, when I was about nine, and our subsequent move to Binstead Road in the 50s but I can’t remember John being at this address. I know he was in the navy from an early age and I have been told he was known as John Harding. After I joined the forces at 15 I gradually lost touch with all my family.

It was a shock to discover who my biological father was at such a late stage in my life and that he had been married to my mother before my stepfather, but who is John? I would be grateful for any memories that would help me unravel my past and hopefully get in touch with John. I have only recently been given these pictures of my family.

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